Written by Alexia Rowley (Roots and Wings Parenting)
When my 2 year old daughter announced for the 5th time this morning “NOT MUMMY! Daddy do it” I finally gave up and let the man of the hour step in. Feeling a sense of crushing rejection. Why will I do on a daily basis when I am home with her, but the weekends she ditches me quicker than a teenager does to last week’s boy band?
I hope I am not the only mum experiencing this. I fear that the attachment I have worked hard to build and nurture, is completely broken at the weekends. I honestly don’t think my daughter would notice if I moved out for those 2 days. Yet she would notice if daddy even goes to the bathroom without her. Everything I read tells me not to take this personally, which I find is easier said than done. I know it’s ridiculous but I honestly do feel very hurt.
So I have decided to think of all the positives this situation brings.
- I can go to the bathroom alone, something that 5 days a week is completely impossible.
- I can pop to the local shops and won’t be missed. Just a shame I don’t have an endless balance on my credit card.
- I can eat all the chocolate I like and don’t have to hide or share it, as she is following daddy into the other room.
- I can read a book.
- I can speak on the phone to friends without interruption.
Of course none of the above is at all possible as I have my baby son who fortunately/ unfortunately (depending on my mood) does still want his mummy, but it is good to dream. And I’m sure one day the tables will turn again, won’t they?